Elba called two weeks ago with more
news. The wedding will be at St James
Catholic Church in Chicago Heights
followed by a reception at the
Chicago Heights Country Club.  After
hearing for the next ten minutes how
busy Elba and her husband Berto are
with the preparations and how they
had to take a second mortgage to
pay for the whole thing.  I reminded
her that dogs and cats are better than
kids because they (1) eat less, (2) don't ask for money all the time, (3) are easier to
train, (4) normally come when called, (5) never ask to drive the car, (6) don't hang out
with drug-using people; (7) don't smoke or drink, (8) don't want to wear your clothes, (9)
don't have to buy the latest fashions, (10) don't need a gazillion dollars for college and
(11) if they get pregnant, you can sell their children.  Again she hung up.

Insisting to share her happiness, Elba had more news this week.  Originally she had
reservations about the wedding when she found out that Ernie's mother is a lesbian
who lives with her partner of 30 years.   The lesbians must be doing well, because
Ernie surprised their little Myrna with a huge rock from Tiffany's.  And now, the lesbians
want to help pay for the wedding.  Berto will not have to mortgage the house, which is
good because he found he had no equity—you know with the financial crisis and all...  
She told me where are they registered: "Macy's, the New Marshall Fields of Chicago."

Today I finally told Elba off.  "Let me tell you something," I said—"I'm sick and tired
www.ambiente.us  FEBRUARY | FEBRERO 2009

OPEd | Weddings
By Carlos T Mock, MD

Guest blogger Carlos Mock, MD has published three books and is the Floricanto Press
editor for its GLBT series. He was inducted in the Chicago Gay & Lesbian Hall of Fame
in October of 2007. He grew up middle-class in the suburbs of San Juan, Puerto Rico.
His website is: www.carlostmock.com

My sister, Elba, phoned a month ago excited about the upcoming wedding of her
daughter Myrna. I was carried away in her enthusiasm and requested to know all the
details about my niece's new found happiness..

Myrna is a junior at Marian Catholic High School in Chicago Heights. She has known
Ernie, her fiancé, for the last 8 months.  They are devout Catholics, so the only form of
birth control they were taught was abstinence.  Needless to say, they could not abstain.
Myrna is three months pregnant and they are planning a February 28 wedding.  I was
quite sympathetic, told her to pray for the best, and offered her the number to the closest
Planned Parenthood Clinic. She was offended and hung up.  Funny thing about being
Catholic—against all odds, they will marry—I give them five years tops.

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of hearing about Myrna's wedding, the reception, her gown, and all the other stuff.  What
makes you think I want to share in this "disaster in waiting"?  When was the last time
that you honored our anniversary?  For that matter when was the last time Myrna
remembered my birthday?"

Bill and I don't want to go, but we are ambivalent about offending Myrna, and, more
importantly the lesbians. I have given thousands of dollars in gifts over the last 30 years
to friends, co-workers, and family to celebrate heterosexual marriages. Yet, where are
these people to support us in same sex marriage?  After what happened in California, I
figured it's time fight back!

Bill and I thought it through and sent Myrna and Ernie the following note:

"Thank you for your invitation to your wedding. Bill and I will not be attending, nor will we
be sending gifts.  We will abstain from all heterosexual weddings until marriage is
equal for all Americans, heterosexual and homosexual."

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